A Relationship Coach’s Point Of View

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If you are searching for a partner or you are in a relationship at this time that could require some polishing in order to flourish, a relationship coach can offer positive changes!

One of the most popularly coached techniques of relationship coaching is the Thomas Leonard Attraction Program, which was created by one of the founders of modern day coaching. Numerous coaches just like me have adapted it into a singular and holistic coaching program for anyone searching for that special someone, or to improve a current, committed relationship.

Relationship coaches are able to provide a number of tools in for better communication, interpreting, and familiarity. By using the most current mind-body-emotions-spirit tools of neuro-language planning and emotional freedom method, Silva Mind Control and additional tools, we help couples to get over resentments as well as the release of the emotional baggage that often clouds many relationships.

Let’s take a look at these two categories and how holistic relationship coaching might be beneficial:
1. Searching for a partner (Holistic Relationship Attraction).
2. Developing a current love relationship.

Many people claim that they are looking for love and that they desire to find the “right person for them.” The truth of the matter is that finding and having successful relationships is much more about YOU BE-ing the “right” person. In being the best you that you can be, you become far more appealing to those you aspire to meet in your life.

Many people are looking for that “complete match” and they think that once they find him or her, life will immediately become “all better” (ex/. happily ever after). They attempt to use online matchmaking services and personal ads or attend parties and maybe even bars and nightclubs.

When you think about all of the things that you are DO-ing in order to meet the “right” person, you would be more successful concentrating on developing the inner you and your BE-ing. When you prosper on the inside, with or without a partner you become much more attractive. In your own way you are making your own charismatic and energetic field of attraction to those people and opportunities you want to attract into your life. When your concentration looks inside to ways of improving who you ARE, those you wish to draw will find you with ease.

You have most probably experienced going into a room and having a variety of reactions to the different people there. You are mindful of what it’s like to experience a “good vibe” and you only want to be around those with “good vibes”. We think it’s about physical attributes but in reality, there is more going on than meets the eye.

The target of holistic relationship attraction coaching is to look at and fine tune all facets of who you are including mental, physical, emotional, spiritual and energetic components. All of these characteristics of how you determine your “vibe” and decide how attractive you really are to others.

Holistic relationship attraction coaching is NOT about teaching you how to write personal ads or to tell you where to begin meeting new people. It is about taking a good, hard look at who you are and being able to grow and blossom in being the best you can be. You will naturally pull in compatible and wonderful people when you do this.

You can benefit from relationship coaching even if you are in an existing relationship. A gardener feeds, weeds and tends to his or her garden with patience, care and love. Even the most beautiful of gardens have weeds growing here and there and require maintenance. A good and natural gardener is attentive, recognizes changes and potential issues and is pro-active in prevention.

Gardening is always a continuous effort and not a single event. A relationship – a good one – needs the same type of continuous “gardening”. So, holistic relationship “gardening” provides clients with tools and processes with which to heal a troubled relationship. Once a relationship is improved these tools can be used to help to keep it healthy, strong and flourishing.

In a good number of relationships, communication or lack of communication and unlikely expectations are 90% of the problem. Relationship coaching provides people with plans of action and the tools they need in order to be able to deal with these challenges.

Some individuals may find that they want coaching but their mate is not open to coaching. It is still doable to make a relationship better by working on your own challenges, issues and flaws.

(Notice: helping a poor relationship because serious issues of physical or verbal abuse, rage and anger problems are likely beyond coaching and need a marriage and family therapist with specific expertise in this area.)